It is going to be OK!

So let me say first and foremost that I am OK with my life. I am not loving every SINGLE minute of it. But for the most part I am OK with the way things are! I have a great family that is always there for me, awesome friends who love me, a good job that I happen to love, and the Church is true! I still think that there are times in our lives where being OK is the best we can do! Would I like some aspects of my life to be different? Sure I would. I would love for there to be less of me, I would love to make more money, I would love to add the that great family I talk about. So being OK is good enough for now. It is not easy to be alone in this big world, nor is it fun. However I would much rather be alone than in a bad or unhappy relationship. Because I know there are far worse things than being single. I have seen some of those relationships play out, and thank my lucky stars I am not faced with those kinds of trials.

Having said that...

Sometimes people who are in relationships or even married try to help a little to much. They tend to tip toe around those of us who are not there yet. I know they are trying to not rub their bliss into our faces. But truth be told this hurts even more. I want to know the fun things that are happening in your life. I want to know the details of your dates. I want to know the cute things he said to you that made you have butterflies. I want to be involved in your life! Please know that I am able to handle the fact that I am not there now. I will share my stories of this nature with you when the time comes. Believe me I have a list of people who will have to sit through all the painful details!!! And even though this trial is harder at time than it is at others. It has nothing to do with my happiness for you! If we are friends it is for a reason! And whether you are dating, engaged or married I still want to be part of you life!

I know that things have to change and people move on! Believe me I know about this all to well. I understand that this person is a huge part of you life and will be for a long time. PLEASE understand We (those still single) are trying to get used to the new way of doing things! Change is not something that you get used to over night! It just takes some getting used to is all. But that does not mean in anyway that we are not wanting to be part of it! Really if you think about it we are living through you, so please don't leave us out!!

I know this was a lot of rambling and maybe it did not even make any sense. But I guess what I am trying to say is this. Even though being at this stage in my life is not my idea of fun. I am OK!! I also am trying to say that not being in the loop is much worse that it seems. So I am doing my part to expose this ELEPHANT in the room!

I know someday these things will happen in my life too! So until then I will be OK!